Parent coach for kids 4–14

The next right words, when it matters most.

Screen-time standoffs, homework meltdowns, words you wish you could take back. Say It Steady gives you a calm script in under a minute — a reset for you, exact words for the moment, and a way to repair afterwards.

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19 real-life scenes 6-skill practice radar 45-second resets Ages 4–14 0 accounts required

Say It Steady.

Screen timeMia · 8 yrs Calm first · 45s

Say this directly

1 · Say this“You want more time, and stopping is frustrating. The iPad goes off in two minutes — you can turn it off yourself, or I can help.”

2 · Understand without debating

Name the feeling before the limit — “You’re annoyed the game ended. I get it.” Then restate the plan once, calmly.

3 · Hold the boundary

The plan stays. Your tone can stay calm without changing the rule.

Fix it · Repair“I lost my calm earlier. I apologize for my tone. The boundary remains.”

Pushback plan included

Age-aware · 4–14

In the hardest thirty seconds

Three things, exactly when you need them

No feed to scroll, no course to finish. Every plan opens with the same three moves — built to lower the temperature.

Say — exact words

One sentence you can say out loud right now, a full five-step script behind it, and a ready answer for the pushback you know is coming.

“I hear that you want to keep playing. The time is still up — I’ll stay with you while you choose.”

Calm — a 45-second reset

Four quick resets — breathing, grounding, a mental anchor, light movement. Pick the one that fits the moment before you walk back in.

Drop both shoulders away from your ears. Open your palms. One slow breath before you speak.

Repair — own it, keep it

Already raised your voice? Fix it without surrendering the rule: name your part, acknowledge your child, restate the boundary.

“I lost my calm earlier. I apologize for my tone. The boundary remains.”

How it works

From boiling point to steady plan

A guided flow built for the middle of a conflict — four short steps, not a chat window.

Describe the moment

Pick from 19 real-life scenes — screen time, homework, morning rush, sibling clashes — or describe it in your own words. Add your mood and how your child is affected.

A sentence or two is enough

Get your steady script

A calm reset first if you need it, then a complete plan: the exact sentence to say, five steps to walk through, and the response to your child’s pushback — tuned to your child’s age.

In under a minute · age-aware

Repair · practice · grow

Use the Fix-it repair script if words got sharp. Turn the plan into a 7-check-in practice with short question sets. Watch your six coaching skills grow on your practice radar.

The part most apps skip

Features

Everything serves the moment. Nothing wastes it.

Practice that sticks

Turn any plan into a 7-check-in practice. Short mixed question sets, honest feedback, and a six-skill radar built from what you actually wrote — not a streak counter.

Self-regulationEmpathyBoundariesDe-escalationCooperationRepair

One check-in per plan per day — designed for real families, not daily-guilt streaks.

Age-aware, 4–14

A 5-year-old’s tantrum and a 13-year-old’s sarcasm need different words. Scripts adapt by age, stage, and how hard the moment hit.

Fix it — real repair

A dedicated repair mode for after the storm: own your reaction, acknowledge your child, keep the boundary — no forced apologies, no lectures.

Calm Room

A quiet space just for you: breathing, grounding, a mental anchor, light movement — each one works in under a minute.

Private & judgment-free

Start without an account. Your plans live on your phone; sync is your choice. We ask before anything reaches an AI service — and we never sell data.

Pushback rehearsal

Rehearse the response before the moment: realistic “but she started it!” scenarios, steady answer revealed, instant feedback.

Growth wall

Badges for real practice, a journal for the small wins — progress you can point to on the hard days.

The method behind the words

Grounded in authoritative parenting science — not internet trends.

Every script is shaped by a reviewed library of 60+ coaching principles synthesized from the most trusted voices in parent-child communication, then filtered for your child’s age and the situation at hand.

The stance never changes: validate the feeling, hold the boundary, repair without shame. No punishment scripts, no sarcasm, no “because I said so.”

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Good Inside No-Drama Discipline The Self-Driven Child The Whole-Brain Child How to Talk So Teens Will Listen The Explosive Child + more

Informed by these works — no affiliation or endorsement implied.

Pricing

Start free. Upgrade when the whole family moves in.

Core

Free

Everything you need for the first hard moment.

Calm Room — four 45-second resets
Fix it — full repair mode, free forever
Your first complete steady plan
1 child profile · no account required

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FAMILY PASS

Family Pass

$49.99 / yearSAVE 48%

≈ $4.17/mo, billed yearly · or $7.99 month-to-month · cancel anytime

Unlimited steady plans & practice sets
Up to 5 child profiles, each age-aware
Cloud backup & restore across devices
Early access to new coaching modules

Get Family Pass

7-day free trial on the yearly plan.

Your family’s moments stay yours.

Local-first: your plans, practice history, and journal live on your phone from the start. Sync is opt-in: connect an account only when you want backup across devices. AI with consent: before your first generated plan, we tell you plainly that your situation text goes to a third-party AI service — and we ask. No ads, no data sale, no tracking SDKs, and this app is built for parents — it never collects information directly from children. Read the full privacy policy →

Also included

Small details that respect your time

19 real-life scenesFrom bedtime delays to “am I a bad parent?” — pre-mapped, one tap away.

Gentle remindersOne daily nudge for pending practice — summarised, never nagging.

Audio encouragementShort recorded cheers after a real practice — captions included, easy to mute.

Cloud backupOptional sync keeps plans and practice safe across phones — with a recovery code for the move.

Adjust any plan“Try a different approach” keeps the same moment but reshapes the words — versions saved, nothing overwritten.

Honest feedbackOne strength, one next step, and a model line — scored on six skills with evidence, never a grade on you.

iPhone-firstBuilt natively for one-handed use in a doorway argument — big taps, short text, no clutter.

Deletes are realDelete any plan, wipe local data, or remove your cloud account — your data, your call.

Ready when you are.

Private, judgment-free, and built for the moments that count. — Our promise

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Launching on the App Store · Free to start · Ages 4–14